I love inspirational quotes. I seem to collect them. I read one and find that it applies to what's going on in my life and somehow it lifts my spirits. I have quotes hanging on my dresser mirror, on the refrigerator, framed on bookshelves or saved on my phone. I include them in cards I am sending, or give them as a small gift. I have even used them at parties, setting one by each person's plate. I have used them a lot in my work with clients and in meeting with colleagues. A quote can help explain a difficult issue, help me feel less alone, make me laugh or just help put my mind at ease.
Recently, I read a quote on FaceBook that was credited to Word Porn.
"Healing is weird. Some days you are okay and you are doing just fine.
Other days it still feels like its fresh. It's a process with no definitive time frame.
You just have to keep going and know that when all is said and done you are going to be okay."
To me, this quote is very applicable to the many emotions surrounding infertility and childlessness. Healing is simply odd sometimes and often hard to put into words. At times, you might look/feel/sound okay and other times your feelings are overwhelming and powerful. Like the waves of grief, there is no logic, no set path to healing. It's unique for each of us.
After healing and working through the grief of being childless, I just knew in my own childless heart that I wanted to help others who were walking the same path I had endured in the past. I didn’t want anyone else to feel alone and that there was no one else who understood their feelings, their pain.